The ROOTS Method™
Your plan follows our 5-step framework
R
Reset
Calm the body first
O
Observe
Notice the trigger
O
Origin
Find the root
T
Transform
Reframe + plan
S
Soothe
Heal self & relationships
Each section below is tagged with the ROOTS step it belongs to, so you always know where you are in the journey.
What you'll be able to do
By the end of the 12 modules you will be able to:
- Reset
Reset in the middle of the chaos, without needing an hour alone to do it.
- Observe
See the mental load, resentment and unspoken boundary behind the flashpoint.
- Origin
Trace 'good girls don't get angry' back to where you learned it.
- Transform
Turn guilt-loaded thinking into clear, unapologetic asks.
- Soothe
Repair with your kids and partner, and rebuild self-compassion after the hard days.
Progress is measured with the DAR-5 (Dimensions of Anger Reactions), a brief validated anger screening scale, taken before you start and again after Module 12.
Your Anger Is
Valid
This isn't a men's program repackaged. It includes 6 clinically-designed modules addressing hormonal influences, the mental load, socialised suppression, and anger turned inward.
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One-time payment • Lifetime access • Completely confidential
Does This Resonate?
These are patterns many women experience, and exactly what this program addresses.
Suppressed Anger
Society tells women to 'stay calm.' Learn to express anger healthily. Without guilt or shame.
Emotional Overwhelm
When stress, exhaustion, and frustration pile up, small things trigger big reactions. Break the cycle.
Relationship Dynamics
Set boundaries without being labelled 'difficult.' Communicate your needs with confidence.
Self-Compassion Gap
Stop the inner critic that turns anger inward. Replace self-blame with self-understanding.
6 Women's-Exclusive Modules
In addition to the core 12-module curriculum, you get these modules designed specifically for female anger patterns.
The Good Girl Trap
Unpack how women are socialised to suppress anger from childhood. Anger isn't 'unladylike', it's a healthy signal.
Sandra Thomas's Women & Anger research + gender socialisation theory
Hormones, Cycles & Anger
Understand how PMDD, perimenopause, postpartum changes, and hormonal shifts genuinely amplify anger; and what to do about it.
Reproductive psychiatry + PMDD clinical guidelines
The Mental Load & Invisible Labour
When you're managing everything for everyone, resentment builds. Learn to redistribute, delegate, and let go without guilt.
Emma Clit's 'Mental Load' framework + burnout research
Anger Turned Inward
Women often convert anger into anxiety, depression, self-harm, or people-pleasing. Recognise and redirect this pattern.
Harriet Lerner's 'Dance of Anger' + internalised anger research
Reclaiming Righteous Anger
Not all anger needs to be 'managed.' Learn to harness anger as fuel for change, advocacy, and self-protection.
Feminist psychology + empowerment-based anger models
Somatic Release & Nervous System Care
Women's bodies hold anger differently. Gentle somatic practices, breathwork, and body-based techniques for releasing stored tension.
Polyvagal theory + trauma-sensitive somatic experiencing
What You'll Discover
Illustrative Scenarios for Women
Composite examples based on common situations; not individual testimonials.
Situation: Screaming at her kids every evening, overwhelming guilt afterward
Key insight: The Mental Load module revealed she was doing 90% of household management. Her anger was a signal, not a flaw.
Redistributed responsibilities. Evening outbursts stopped within 3 weeks.
Situation: Chronic anxiety and passive-aggressive patterns at work
Key insight: Discovered she'd been turning anger inward since childhood, 'good girls don't get angry.'
Started expressing disagreement directly. Got promoted. Anxiety reduced significantly.
Situation: Perimenopause rage episodes that felt completely out of character
Key insight: The Hormones module helped her understand the neurochemistry, not just blame herself.
Combination of cycle tracking + regulation tools. Feels like herself again.
Getting to the Root; Deep Assessment
This program includes our 18-question clinical deep-dive that uncovers why you get angry, not just how to manage it. Trace your anger back to suppressed emotions, hormonal patterns, the mental load, and "good girl" conditioning.
Why Women Choose RootCalm
Safe & Shame-Free
No group therapy, no judgement. Work through everything privately, at your own pace.
Understands Women's Anger
Not a men's program repackaged. Addresses hormones, mental load, socialisation, and internalised anger.
Expert-Designed
Created by a clinical psychologist with 30+ years experience in women's mental health.
Looking for the Mom's Course?
If your anger is specifically triggered by parenting stress, our dedicated Mom's Calm Course. Breaking the Screaming Cycle is designed specifically for mothers. This Women's Program covers broader anger patterns beyond parenting.
R1,299, One-Time Payment
12 core modules + 6 women's-exclusive modules. AI coaching. Completion certificate.
Less than a single therapy session; with lifetime access.
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Also available: General Program • Men's Program • Workplace Program • Court Compliance