Why Am I So Angry?
Let's Find Out, Together.
You're not broken. You just haven't found the root cause yet. Pick the question below that sounds like you; and we'll guide you to the right answer.
Feeling angry right now?
These are anger de-escalation tools, not a suicide or emergency crisis line. If you are thinking of harming yourself or someone else, contact emergency services immediately or see 24/7 crisis helplines.
Tell us what you're going through.
Click the one that sounds like you. We'll guide you to the right tool.
Why am I so angry?
Do I have anger issues?
How do I calm down when I'm angry?
Why am I angry all the time?
How do I stop being so angry?
Why am I so angry at my partner?
Why do I keep yelling at my kids?
I can't control my anger at work
My partner says I need anger management
I need anger management for court
Why do I get road rage?
Is my anger actually anxiety?
I can't forgive someone who hurt me
What type of angry am I?
Is it normal to be this angry?
The ROOTS Method™
Your plan follows our 5-step framework
R
Reset
Calm the body first
O
Observe
Notice the trigger
O
Origin
Find the root
T
Transform
Reframe + plan
S
Soothe
Heal self & relationships
Each section below is tagged with the ROOTS step it belongs to, so you always know where you are in the journey.
Dr. Elizma van der Smit
Clinical Psychologist · HPCSA PS 0064793 · CAMS-II (NAMA)
With more than 25 years of clinical experience and a Ph.D. focused on anger management, Dr. Elizma combines cognitive therapy (CT), dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), and brainworking recursive therapy (BWRT) to create an approach that goes beyond surface-level coping.
"Life is full of cacti, but we don't have to sit on it!"
What participants say, and what you can check yourself
Feedback below is anonymised and shared with permission. We do not publish completion or success rates yet — our cohorts are still too small for a figure that would mean anything. Everything on the right is verifiable today.
"I always thought the anger was the problem. Working through the origin module showed me it was the last step in a chain that started much earlier."
"Having the steps written down meant I could do it late at night, when I actually needed it, instead of waiting for an appointment."
"The pause plan is the part I use. Two lines I rehearsed enough times that they came out under pressure."
"Writing the thought down and finding a cooler version of it sounds small. It is the thing that stopped the shouting in my house."
Named, checkable clinician
Written by Dr Elizma van der Smit — HPCSA PS 0064793, NAMA CAMS-II certificate 42337543354520.
Structured 12-module curriculum
Every tier covers the same 12 modules in the same order, with a DAR-5 measure taken at intake and again at completion.
Independently verifiable certificates
Each certificate carries a unique code any attorney, officer or employer can check without contacting us.
See how verification worksLive human contact
Twice-monthly live Q&A sessions with the programme author — not an automated course alone.
Frequently asked questions
Everything you need to know before getting started.
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